softer somatics 🌥️ ease into embodiment
because being in your body is hard and healing
especially in these times
Have you ever gotten a “60 days to reset your nervous system!” bundle, or joined a somatic workshop, but the practices didn’t work for you?
Maybe it goes a little something like:
🌀 You try to do the movement practice and suddenly your chest is an escalator, your heart is running a marathon, and you’re panic attacking!
🌀 You take the deep breaths and close your eyes but then you’re sinking deep into the dorsal and dissociated swampland, feeling glued and unable to move.
🌀 The instructor gently asks “Where do you feel that in your body?” and you feel a whole lot of nothing! Numb. Nothing. Blank. And then you worry because you feel nothing. (Pssst: nothing is something, but we’ll get to that.)
If these words resonate, you might want to join me for
🌥️ softer somatics 🌥️
I will help you ease into embodiment at your perfect pace.
If we haven’t met yet, I’m Jess (she/they)!
I’m a somatic practitioner who clawed and crawled my way back into my body after complex trauma and sexual assault.
And, after a lifelong pattern of disembodiment, fawning and nervous system shapeshifting that literally kept me alive. But also made my life kinda small. (Oops!)
I’ve been on this somatic journey for decades, and I have the letters after my name to prove it.
So far: LMT, SSP, and almost SEP! This means I’m a Licensed Massage Therapist, a Safe & Sound Protocol Provider, and in September I complete my Somatic Experiencing Practitioner Certification!
Extensive trauma sensitive and trauma resolution studies, paired with my (not to brag!) extensive experiences being a client with a sensitive nervous system and reasons to come back to my body AND stay out prime me for this work.
I will guide you back to your body with care, and the knowledge that it’s not as easy as doing a body scan and “dropping in”.
Of course body connection doesn’t always feel safe. Of course we don’t always want to go towards the place where the pain lives.
This is why attuned support from someone who gets it deeply matters.
dream with me
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I believe
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dream with me 🌥️ I believe 🌥️
You don’t need to try harder. You need to learn the language of your body’s yes and no.
You don’t need to go faster. You need permission to go as slow as the scaredest part of you.
You don’t need to just connect. You need a guide who knows body connection isn’t always the safe option.
You don’t need to transcend your resistance. You need lots of choice about how you connect with your body.
You don’t need to get embodied immediately. You need someone who gets why you’d need to go slow.
You don’t need to do it alone. You need help. As babies, we learn to self-regulate, self-soothe and stay alive through co-regulation. Grown up you needs co-regulation, connection and community, too. Especially if you had less than you needed and deserved as a little one.
What’s 🌥️ softer somatics?
🚫 It’s not a bunch of somatic practices and “nervous system hacks”, because Instagram and TikTok are full of them. (And sometimes, full of it.)
🙂↕️ It’s a bunch of what-to-do when you can’t quite do the somatic practice.
And you feel like you’re broken. You’re too brainy and numb. Something must be wrong with you.
But no, no and no, friend.
If you have a body, live in this world, and your nervous system has been through (or is going through) traumatic experiences, somatic and nervous system practices aren’t so simple.
You can’t “just”:
😮💨 Take a deep breath and relax.
💭 Connect emotions to body sensations.
🫨 Shake your limbs and the trauma unwinds.
But there is a lot you can do.
Especially when you:
🦥 Move at the pace of the nervous system and its slowest, scaredest impulse.
🧸 Pick practices that fit the nervous system space (and headspace) you are in.
🥨 Adapt and adjust the practices so they work for you. You don’t have to be a pretzel to fit the practices!
P.S. You are probably very good at contorting your needs to fit the space, the mood, the vibe, etc. And I bet that life gives you many chances to practice that.
Let’s work on new skills that will serve YOU more and honor your needs and capacity!
Here’s what’s waiting for you:
✦ Nervous System Mapping Course [✨BONUS! $55 VALUE]
Before you move towards a somatic practice or nervous system tool, it’s helpful to know what’s happening in your nervous system. If you often feel panicky, dissociated, slumpy and depressed, or have some strange physical sensations going on—Polyvagal Nervous System mapping can unlock so much for you!
✦ Trauma sensitive paths and approaches to embodiment
When you know what your nervous system is up to, you can begin to build a menu of supportive practices and play with how to approach a practice.
If you don’t know when to focus on breathing vs. when counting all the green things in your room will help, this will help you!
You will be invited to play with trauma sensitive somatic practice approaches (like: titration, containment and resourcing), and notice what nourishes your own nervous system.
✦ Individualized somatic support for just 5 weeks this summer [✨LIMITED TIME BONUS!]
Yes, you’ll get a portal with materials and trauma-informed teachings about approaching somatics. Yes, you’ll get access to the nervous system mapping course. But if you are anything like me, you might need some gentle reminders to actually do the work after you buy the thing.
This summer, I will send encouragement and tiny somatic to-trys (not to-dos) that you can play with each week.
Send me your questions and I’ll write back with specific suggestions and resources! These can stay between you and me, or be anonymously added to the program portal. You’re probably not alone in your struggles, even if it feels like it.
I have worked with so many clients who want to do somatic practices but need to support to practice body connection without getting re-traumatized or flooded.
So if you are feeling sticky, spinny, or unsure where to start or what to do when something comes up — reach out! I am here to help.
✦ Even more trauma sensitive & somatic materials [✨BONUS]
This is my first round of softer somatics, so I will be adding to this program to make this offering the most supportive it can be. Getting in early means you can help me shape it, AND get all of the updates and additions along the way. Even when the price goes up! And it will.
Join softer somatics at the early bird beta rate of $97
It’s cheaper than most somatic sessions, and it’ll help you make the most out of your sessions!
Plus, this summer only, get 5 weeks of somatic guidance as you practice somatic skills!
softer somatics opens July 14th/21. the 5 week support window ends August 18th.
After this beta round, the price will increase.
Due to the digital and immediate nature of this program, refunds are not possible and payment plans once initiated may not be canceled. If you have any concerns, please be in touch.
“Jess clearly possesses a nuanced understanding of how the subtle/energetic and physical body holds and expresses trauma wounds. She is a gifted facilitator.”
- Meg B, Therapist
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“Jess goes at your pace, and makes sure to keep you informed, empowered and more aware of your psychosomatic needs so you can make the most out of each session.”
-M.T., former client
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“Jess is an incredibly kind and skilled facilitator who makes their clients feel seen and safe throughout the process. If you get the chance to work with them, don't hesitate.”
-anonymous former client
If you want doable techniques for trying somatic practices without losing your sh*t, you’re in the right place. ✨
Join me for a crawl back into your body. Yes, the body you have. Yes, in these very times that make checking out of our body tempting.
I’ll help you connect with your somatic experience: at your own pace, on your own terms, and without any shame or “tough love”.
This is softer somatics.