If it was as simple as letting go, wouldn't we all have let go by now?
I’m sure a lot of us can relate to this one. Working with a practitioner who seems to think it’s as easy as loosening our grip. Seeking support from someone who tries not-so-gently to unfurl our fingers. Sharing our story with someone whose words roll their eyes at us - why aren’t we over it, by now?
Gratitude is not required on your chronic pain journey
Gratitude is not required in your journey with chronic pain.
Sure, folks will foist it upon you.
Tell you your pain is a gift.
And it might be.
But the truth, as with most things, is that you get to decide.
And often it’s not as simple as a gift with no sharp edges.
Perhaps it’s easier for someone else to declare your experience a gift when it isn’t theirs to hold.
Dear Coaches: Mindset Isn't Everything
I am beyond tired of healing and coaching models boiling complex circumstances down to mindset work & emotional/mental/healing blocks. There is no way this is the full picture. However, this is a great business model if you want someone to believe they are the problem and they can only change themselves and their circumstances via your program or services.
How can traumaversaries impact us?
I am writing to you today about traumaversaries. Did I make up that word? Maybe. It’s just trauma + anniversary, gently smushed together. These tricky little beasts (I say that mostly lovingly) can affect many spheres of our lives. As a survivor, writer, and trauma-informed educator, I am honored to share a bit about how traumaversaries can touch us. This is my world in many ways. And maybe it’s yours too.
If you have ever experienced…
Climate grief is valid grief
I want to send so much gentleness and care to anyone navigating fires, smokey air, power outages, evacuation, climate grief, and oppression in all forms. There can be a lot to be present to, impacted by, sitting with, living through and adapting to.
So many of us are in this woven web. May we be both strong and gentle with every thread. May we honor this grief.
I want a world we don't have to recover from
I want to world we don’t have to recover from.
I want a world where crying doesn’t only happen 50 minutes a week in therapy and in the middle of a sleepless night.
I want a world where caregivers are supported and children are safe and loved.
I want a world where we check on each other, not as a transaction but because we have the capacity to see a wilting sunflower in our neighbor’s garden, offer water.
I want a world with clear air and reparations.