If it was as simple as letting go, wouldn't we all have let go by now?
I’m sure a lot of us can relate to this one. Working with a practitioner who seems to think it’s as easy as loosening our grip. Seeking support from someone who tries not-so-gently to unfurl our fingers. Sharing our story with someone whose words roll their eyes at us - why aren’t we over it, by now?
Gratitude is not required on your chronic pain journey
Gratitude is not required in your journey with chronic pain.
Sure, folks will foist it upon you.
Tell you your pain is a gift.
And it might be.
But the truth, as with most things, is that you get to decide.
And often it’s not as simple as a gift with no sharp edges.
Perhaps it’s easier for someone else to declare your experience a gift when it isn’t theirs to hold.
Dear Coaches: Mindset Isn't Everything
I am beyond tired of healing and coaching models boiling complex circumstances down to mindset work & emotional/mental/healing blocks. There is no way this is the full picture. However, this is a great business model if you want someone to believe they are the problem and they can only change themselves and their circumstances via your program or services.
It is not trauma informed to tell survivors to “stop playing the victim”
I understand why we say the things we do. And still, I’m going to call us in about it. Here’s one:
It is not trauma informed to tell survivors to “stop playing the victim”.
⋒ Stop playing the victim
⋒ Drop the victim card
⋒ Stop victimizing yourself
How many of us have heard this?
How many of us have said this?
We might say this because …
Just because something is helpful for you to hear does not mean it won’t harm others
If I could distill everything from It’s Not All Good, my digital guide unpacking spiritual bypassing, into one sentence: this would be it.
Just because something is helpful for you to hear does not mean it won’t harm others.
Something can be supportive to us in our process, and it can feel harmful to others at the same time. This doesn’t negate its value to us, and this doesn’t pardon its harmful impact others might feel. Both can (and often do) exist at the same time.
May We Not Fastforward
Often in our own healing, we want to fast forward to an easier part. So doesn’t it make sense that we also want to fast forward other people to an easier part?
Can we have a bit of self compassion for ourselves that it might be difficult to sit with pain?