If being in your body feels hard
We live in our bodies. Our nervous system is housed there. So, of course, when a traumatic thing happens, and after it happens, it can feel hard to inhabit your body, and hard to partner with your body in healing.
Corrective experiences can bring up so much grief
If you receive the very thing you’ve always needed, the very thing you didn’t get that is inextricably linked to a traumatic experience, and this corrective experience brings you to your knees, you are not alone.
If it was as simple as letting go, wouldn't we all have let go by now?
I’m sure a lot of us can relate to this one. Working with a practitioner who seems to think it’s as easy as loosening our grip. Seeking support from someone who tries not-so-gently to unfurl our fingers. Sharing our story with someone whose words roll their eyes at us - why aren’t we over it, by now?
Healing Can Be Destabilizing, Too
In the beginning, healing can be so destabilizing. It can exacerbate symptoms, heighten anxiety, make space for big overwhelming emotions.
So if you feel like you’re going backwards, know that this can be part of the process.
On Not Rushing Someone Through Their Grief
Sometimes we don’t need the situation to be fixed. We don’t always want advice. It’s often not helpful (and can be hurtful) to be redirected to a silver lining when we are in a storm.
I AM NOT A HEALER
I️ AM NOT A HEALER.
I’m a spaceholder, facilitator, sometimes-guide and more-often follower, and deep deep listener.
But I️ AM NOT A HEALER. You are your own healer.
We don’t need anyone else to heal us (even though I get that it’s tempting) because how could they?! Other people are not you. Not in your body or life experiences. And everything you want to heal from is trying to …