Resource, resilience and collective trauma
Nervous system regulation happens when we’re resourced. THIS is why healing is collective and trauma is systemic. THIS is why as we heal I hope we heal these systems that leave so many underresourced.
Corrective experiences can bring up so much grief
If you receive the very thing you’ve always needed, the very thing you didn’t get that is inextricably linked to a traumatic experience, and this corrective experience brings you to your knees, you are not alone.
If it was as simple as letting go, wouldn't we all have let go by now?
I’m sure a lot of us can relate to this one. Working with a practitioner who seems to think it’s as easy as loosening our grip. Seeking support from someone who tries not-so-gently to unfurl our fingers. Sharing our story with someone whose words roll their eyes at us - why aren’t we over it, by now?
The Intersection of Privilege & Regulation
Shaking is great, and can one shake their way out of oppression? Somatic experiencing is great, and can one voo their way out of anti-Black racism? Bodywork is great, and can one receive their way out of a nervous system that constantly receives threats to its very existence?
woo-woo washing
Let’s not do this, please and thank you. It’s dangerous and harmful and insulting and agenda-pushing and it’s n-o-t client-centered OR trauma-informed.
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Get outta here with your healing light unless I️ specifically requested healing light, basically.
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Get outta here with “my soul asked for this” or “your trauma is your greatest gift”.
Anything can be comfortable, including discomfort
Sometimes we hold onto something and it feels comfortable in our hands. Our body knows we’ve held it before. But that doesn’t mean we should keep cupping it.